December 20, 2012

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So let's just put it out there.  Tagg is delayed.  Physically.

And as you're probably sitting here drinking your coffee and reading blogs I'll be holding my breath during his early intervention appointment.  We've already had an in-home visit with a case worker to assess his delays and she recommend us into the program.  Today we meet with two therapists who will assess his abilities and write-up a therapy plan to get him back on track.
 Bottom line:  He's 11 months old and can't bear any weight on his legs.  Even supported.  And that's a skill he should have mastered between 4-6 months old.

It's been really hard for me to see all the babies on facebook born months after him all standing and holding onto push toys or ottomans.  Or the babies around his age who are wobbling about on two legs.  Or videos of Wells who was running around steady on her own at 11 months.   Every child is different.  Not every baby reads the book on what they should do and when, my sweet Nonnie reminds me.  I know this.  But I worry. 

But he's the got the world's best posture and his sitting up and playing skills are out of this world!  
And he has finally started to crawl this past week or so and I swear it's the most beautiful movement I've seen a body do in a long time.  He's slow and hesitant but his little legs and arms work together and he moves.  He moves!  This is a huge development for him and one that I can't wait to share with the therapists today.  Clearly they will be impressed with his improvement too!

So pray with me today that this will be a short visit with positive recommendations for a temporary installment of physical therapies and not the early warning signs of something more serious.  Because I'm a mom and I worry.

"Compare yourself only to the person you were yesterday"

And as a mom of two, especially two who are so very close together in age, I have to remind myself not to compare them.  To each other.  To strangers.  To anyone.
Because right now they are in love with each other and I never want that to change.
Merry Christmas my sweet friends!

I'm not officially signing off but I'm sure posting will be sporadic over the next week or so while I enjoy the Holidays with my family!


70 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear that your son is delayed but happy to hear that he is making progress. I will pray for him and for you. Be a mother can be so hard on ones heart...

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  2. praying for you and your dear. But I know for sure the every child is different, i had one child walk at 13 months and the other at 9 months. They thought my first child was going to have physical issues because he never crawled and didn't know how to climb stairs. Now he is four, not only does he run, he drives, me nuts, lol. You awesome for posting this, because i know how hard it can be hard when you just dont know or you are not sure and you are "supposed" the be the one to make it okay.

    Have a great holiday!
    -Rekita

    P.s. - The kiddos are adorable, just want to pinch those cheeks!

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  3. Finlay just sat in my lap while I read the post and kept saying with a big smile on her face, "Baby Tagg laughing...just so pretty, just so pretty." :)

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  4. I have been praying for that sweet beautiful boy Jules!!!I have a feeling my little Tagg is going to be just fine either way! He has a great mommy and family!! love you!

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  5. Your children are beautiful! And of course you will worry as a mom but realize that you have taken action and done your best for Tagg. I am sure the appointment will go well (and sending up a prayer for your peace of mind!). My sister didn't walk until almost 15 months! Then she made up for lost time :)

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  6. My prayers are with you and your precious son Julia. He is so beautiful, and what an amazing sign that he has begun crawling! I think that is foreshadowing good things to come. Sounds like he has an amazing support system between his parents and his big sister. Good luck, and Merry Christmas!

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  7. Saying many prayers for all of you. I'm certain he will be just fine, but we hope you hear something positive today to help your stress level. Happy thoughts!

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  8. Big prayers for you and your family. Everyone is different and of course you worry. My 20 year old stepson had such a big head (not kidding) that he was delayed but he is fine, in Penn State's engineering program, big head and all. LOL!
    I hope everything is fine and that one day you will find a way to laugh about it.

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  9. Big prayers & hugs for Tagg! Trust me , every child is unique . Sometimes I am amazed that all of our kids came from the same parents. Keeps you on your toes;)))))

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  10. I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I'm sure you're worried sick and I hope you get good news over the next few months. The fact that he's crawling is wonderful!!!! I can't say that I've been in your shoes, but Ivey never crawled. She started butt scooting at 10 months and everyone preached at me that she had to crawl to develop normally. She finally walked at 16 1/2 months. She's 2 and she doesn't jump and just started climbing. She's just a late bloomer when it comes to gross motor skills. As you said, every baby is different and boys are usually a little behind the girls. You're a wonderful mom for staying on it and being proactive.

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  11. Praying for you and sweet Tagg!! Hoping you get the news today that you've been hoping for

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  12. I hope the appointment goes well for you. Congrats on the crawling!! That is great progress!

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  13. comparison is definitely the thief of joy. each child is different, unique, and special and each have their own gifts. my husband had serious leg issues early in life, and never crawled... he wore braces. he grew up to be a cross country star. :)

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  14. I'll be praying for your family and that sweet boy. Hoping you get the news you want to hear today!

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  15. Sending prayers to you and your family. I have two boys and they are both different from each other in so many ways. They really do develop at different rates so you probably don't have anything to worry about - and he is crawling so that is wonderful! You are being a great mom by getting things checked out early though. If there are any issues, you can get working on them now. Sending positive thoughts your way!
    -Shelley

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  16. Will be thinking about you and your family.

    Your Christmas Card is absolutely precious...So sweet!

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  17. Good luck today, I'm sending my best wishes.

    Merry Christmas, and enjoy your time with your family!

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  18. God bless Tagg and you. He is precious. Remember that "averages" are just that. 50% are above that number and 50% are below it. As a retired educator, I can tell you that many little ones who start out developing a little slower do catch up and you'd never know the difference.

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  19. Praying for you. You're Christmas card is beautiful!

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  20. Will pray for Tagg and you. He will be fine as he has such a wonderful Momma who will go to the ends of the earth for him. Have a wonderful family Christmas!

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  21. Praying for you and sweet Tagg! How brave of you to put that out there - just know the blogging community is thinking of you guys this morning

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  22. I'm praying for sweet little Tagg and for you. You are a great mamma and I know he will continue to improve. Enjoy each other and merry Christmas! xo

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  23. Julia I've been thinking about you and wondering if this appt has happened but haven't wanted to ask just yet. Please let me know how it goes. I'll br praying.

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  24. Praying for your sweet boy. And you, mama! "Comparison is the thief of all joy" is something that I remind myself of OFTEN. We are in a stage that doesnt look the way I thought it would, and it is a good reminder to have on repeat.

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  25. I'm praying for you and your cute little one. Good luck and Merry Christmas!

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  26. Oh you sweet girl, I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. I'm happy to know Tagg has a family that loves and cares for him and praying that you'll get to the bottom of it. Merry Christmas to you and your family. And may next year bring tons of health and happiness.

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  27. Praying for Tagg and for your family! Your words are a great reminder for all of us. Praying they come up with a great plan for him today. Go Tagg, go!

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  28. He will get there...they all do, just not on the same time line. My son has issues and I am all to familiar with what a 504 is. You can handle whatever this is. He was given to you for a reason.

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  29. Aww, Julia ~ sometimes being a mommy is so hard. Praying for the best at your appointment today and wishing you and your adorable family the Merriest Christmas!

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  30. Positive thoughts for you and your sweet boy! Have a Merry Christmas!

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  31. Praying for you and sweet Tagg. I have never commented but this post touches my heart. My girl (2yo) was diagnosed with both physical and speech delays at 15 months. The most difficult time for me was the time between the evaluations and the diagnosis. Afterwards I was mainly able to focus on what to do to get her caught up.

    What gives me comfort is that I know we are doing everything within our power to help her. That gives me tremendous peace about the situation. I hope you can feel the same. Keep us updated and have a lovely Christmas with your family!

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  32. I rarely comment and I know I do not know you personally but I love your beautiful blog. Today's especially. And I wanted to provide more mommy support. As the mom of two preschool girls, I can't help but compare them and to worry. Every single day. And they could not be more different. You are so right in terms of your thinking and all of the reminders you posted today (for all of us). It sounds like your son is doing fantastic and is just taking his time. I hope those at his appointment are as impressed with him as your readers are and you have a fantastic holiday with those beautiful sweet babies!

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  33. Awww the good thing is that you are getting him the therapy/care if he needs it. My daughet hit every milestone, my son is at his own pace. He has a very large head that wasn't hitting the normal %s (it is ok after many appointments) and he is really behind in his speech which stresses me out so I know somewhat how you feel. Like some of the other said, sometimes they go at their own pace or need help getting there, which is soo stressful for parents. Good luck and keep us posted!

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  34. What a precious Christmas card!! Sorry to hear about your little stud, I'll be praying for you and Tagg.

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  35. Everything is going to be ok, as you said, every kid is soooo different. Boys are always behind. same thing happened to a friend of mine's boy and he's perfectly well he was just waiting for the perfect time to go ahead and decide to stand up and that was it.

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  36. Praying for good results! And it is so hard not to compare kids! Our first born was talking in very complex sentences before he was even 2 but out daughter barely said anything by 2. I was sure she was mentally deficient! But she was just developing on her own timeline! Once she started talking we haven't been able to get her stop! ;)
    Merry Christmas!

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  37. Aw Julia, I feel your pain. As a mom you never stop worrying. God bless your beautiful Tagg and your wonderful family. Sending prayers for a good report. Have a wonderful Christmas!
    xo Nancy
    Powellbrowerhome.com

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  38. Definitely praying for you and that sweet boy. One day at a time, that's all you can do! Work on what you can , and let go of the rest

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  39. Julia...do not fret...if it's an reassurance, my Breckin (2yo) did not start officially walking until 16 months. He was Lay to the Zee! I had worried he might be delayed, but nope, that little squirt decided one day, "OK I think I'll walk now." Crawling didn't come until around 11 months I believe. And this boy talks as well, if not better, than most 3yo's I meet...very smart. Tagg looks like a big boy and it can be a little harder for them if so...mine were always big healthy boys too. I hope everything turns out OK, and I have a feeling it will. Good luck! www.styleoyster.blogspot.com

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  40. Prayers for you and your beautiful baby boy!

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  41. Merry Christmas! Thinking of your sweet boy! Fingers crossed for great news.

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  42. Julia, I will be thinking of you and Tagg. I follow your blog and tell my friends that you could be one of us. (Hope that's not too freaky.)

    If it makes you feel any better, my first daughter was a late bloomer with her gross motor skills (walked at 16 months, is still learning to jump on one leg at 4 years old), and I think it's because she was so "top-heavy". My younger daughter is completely the opposite, but is not talked.

    They are all so different, and it sounds like you are getting great early intervention help.

    Enjoy your beautiful babies, and have a wonderful Christmas!

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  43. Thank you for being so frank with us...I completely understand what you're going through. My lil one, now 2.5, had/has a speech delay and we went through the whole gamut of testing since he was 1 year old, then hard core speech therapy, and he finally caught on around age 2, but of course we're behind. It's really hard to see your children play with other children but not be able to do what they do, communicate like they communicate, play like they play, etc. You have a wonderful attitude and are taking all the necessary steps and doing all that you can possibly do right now. Just know that you (and sweet lil Tagg) are not alone! PS I didn't even know we could do the testing through our state's early invention program, which is completely free, but it sounds like you've gone that route which is so smart-we had to do private therapy which was ungodly expensive but of course totally worth it for a wonderful experience and therapist!

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  44. Hang in there, Julia! My son was diagnosed with both speech and language impairment (suspected at age 2, confirmed by age 3) and we spent the next 5 years in speech and language therapy. It's a scary road to travel when your child is not "normal"--but guess what? All of us are different so no one is really normal! I can't tell you how many wrinkles and fine lines are due to my extra-worrying about my sweet boy, but he is FINE and an Honor Roll student. He still struggles with writing and expression but we just work with it. And you will work with whatever Tagg brings your way too. Just keep loving him :)

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  45. You have such beautiful kids. I love to see the tenderness between siblings. I hope his appointment goes well today. I'll say a little prayer for you guys. =) Merry Christmas!

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  46. sending you hugs and prayers! <3

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  47. Appreciate your honesty in this post. Will keep Tagg in my prayers.

    A.

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  48. Prayers for you! Be encouraged, they all take their own time in getting where they need to be;) Precious family you have--happy Christmas!

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  49. Your little tagg is going to be just fine! You're a great mama! Merry Xmas and thinking bout you!

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  50. My nephew didn't walk for a long time. It was a little bit worrisome for everyone, but when he started it was gangbusters. Now, he's an awesome tennis player and is very coordinated with all he attempts. I know Tagg will be great. Merry Christmas, Julia!

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  51. Thinking of you and your beautiful little one! xo

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  52. My son is delayed too but not physically...verbally. At 2 1/2 my pedatrician recommended us to our county schools Early Intervention program. He is now 3 and in a preK program for speech. My older son was the same and in the same ECI program. He is now 19, in college and sharp.

    My advice to you is as hard as it is try to take it one day at a time and do not compare him to his sister or others. He will catch up at his own speed. Every baby is an individual. You are doing the right thing, you are on top of it.

    Enjoy him for one day you will be chasing after him...and my son will be talking my ears off

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  53. You seem like such a great mom, you know what I can gather from my daily stalking of your adorable blog! Just put everything in God's hands, he will take care of Tagg and you. Your children are beautiful and happy. Have a very Merry Christmas! (PS The Christmas card is adorable.)

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  54. I will be praying for you. I feel like my heart has been broken a million times after becoming a mom. I hope that this doesn't steal your joy!

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  55. I hate that this has been weighing on you. Worrying about our kids is the hardest part of being a parent. I hope you got all of your questions answered today, and are feeling better. He has a fabulous mommy who loves him, everything will turn out ok. Praying for you right now friend.

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  56. He will get there! Keeping your sweet boy in my prayers. And that's the most adorable card I've ever seen. You have such a beautiful family!

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  57. Thinking of you and hoping/praying for the news you want to hear. XOXO and big hugs, Sam

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  58. Lots of love and prayers coming your way!

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  59. You hang in there, Julia. I'm praying right now in Jesus name, that Tagg is going to be just fine and that he will catch up on his development soon. He is so precious, and crawling is wonderful news. More good things to come!

    XO,

    Sheila

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  60. I think that is key for us mommas to understand that each child is different and we really can't expect them to behave exactly the same and achieve whatever "they are supposed to" achieve at the very same time. There are too many factors involved in my opinion. My nephew is 5 months younger than my son and he talks waaaaaay better and more than mine does, but what can I do? My son has been exposed to 3 languages, so it is what it is. Hang in there and I hope your meetings went well ;)

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  61. Children definitely develop at different rates keep the faith he is so gorgeous

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  62. Wowzers your babies are both beauties!! Scrumptious, Julia!!! And your Nonnie is so smart. Every child is so different, and comparison IS the thief of joy. Because my 1st WALKED at 9 months (9 months!!) and my 3rd didn't say a WORD until 2 years, and Lord knows the two of them won't stop moving and talking today. Your boy is perfection! So lovely of you to share this with other mommas who are waiting for their babes to hit milestones. He'll get there, in his own time….something tells me he's got an advantage with you as his mom! Enjoy them - and Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family!

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  63. I have been in your shoes. It was 4 years ago but my son was diagnosed with global developmental delays at 9 months. He receives a lot of therapy, PT, OT, speech and Developmental intervention. After a lot of hard work, he walked at 2 1/2 and hasn't stopped since. He still receives therapy and will be for a long time. He's such a wonderful, happy social child that loves being around friends and family. I know how difficult it is as a mother but you need to remind yourself to focus on the positive. Surround yourself with positive people and please ignore any negative comments or questions anyone sends your way. Your son will start therapy and you will see progress! I promise! Merry Christmas and happy new year!

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  64. He will be okay. Keep your head up, love them both, look to the good. He's crawling - that's amazing! And enjoy the holidays with your adorable little family!
    Lexi @ Glitter, Inc.

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  65. Love your card...it's gorgeous! I'm sorry to hear about your struggles but I'm sure he will be walking soon before you know it! I took a child psychology course last semester and a big part of it was how kid's develop at their own rate many times without an future impairment. I'm sure you won't even be able to keep up with him soon!

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  66. Thinking of you. My friend went through something similar with her son prior to him turning one. Now he is three and you would never know he had his challenges a few years ago. Hoping for the same for you!

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  67. wow -- I take a week or so off and come over to catch up...and so much to catch up on! I hope everything went smoothly with your appt with sweet Tagg...thank you for all those glorious quotes, so important for me to see.

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  68. This is the first I have had a chance to catch up on blogs, and just felt compelled to let you know that even though my son isnt actually behind - i spend 80% of my time stressing that he is, comparing him to other kids who I then have to remind himself are almost 9 months older than him[huuuuuge in baby years obviously], googling signs and symptoms and normal behavior blah blah blah. So my heart just absolutely pours out to you. They all even out at some point and I am confident he will be right up there with everyone else his age in no time at all Julie! Each kid is so different when they are that young. Your family is just stunning xo

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  69. I just discovered your blog while searching for leopard print runners on pinterest and am so happy I did. My daughter, my oldest, walked at 9 months, she is now 7. My son was delayed, and didn't stand until 18months and walked at 23 months despite twice weekly physical therapy. He has caught up with the spectrum, but those months taught me so much about being a mom that I wouldn't trade them for a thing. Your christmas card photo is so touching. Our daughter never realized her baby brother was different and loved him then and now. We are prepping for our son to have surgery on the 15th to correct an inner issue that they think was the cause of his imbalance and have his tonsils removed and your blog was such a blessing tonight! Our son's godmother is named Wells and his godfather's nickname is Tagg so clearly God was sending me a message through you! I hope you have a very happy 2013!

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  70. Hey Julia, I've been following your blog and your pins for awhile. I teared up reading your post because we are currently going through the same kind of thing with one of our boys who is now 3. His issues are a little different, but I've been feeling many of the same things as you wrote about. I really related to the "Comparison" quote because he is one of a twin, and his brother surpassed all of his milestones. Great things can be achieved with therapy; our little guy has improved immensely, so think happy thoughts. Wishing you a healthy and happy 2013. ~Kerri, A Pop of Pretty

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