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Mother/Daughter Pajamas and thoughts on Junior Kindergarten

February 2, 2015

Wells recently picked out a matching pair of pajamas for us and it melts my heart to see her so excited to look just like me.  She's also a huge fan of being old enough to wear the grown up style jammies as she refers to this button up set.  I feel like most of the time I'm wishing time would slow down but recently the fun I've been having with my best girl leaves me excited about the kind of relationship we'll have as she grows.  

This little bug will be five on her next Birthday which pretty much blows my mind.  The memories we're making now are beginning to be the ones she'll remember forever.  It's hard to believe that for so long I was juggling babies and diapers and snacks while we were just trying to make it through the day and now we've landed smack dab into the swiftness of childhood.  Speaking of which, we've got lots of big decisions coming up on the horizon.  The Big K is the biggest on our minds.  With such a late summer Birthday we're weighing the pro's and con's of doing a Junior Kindergarten in the fall.  So many emotions tied to that one.  I'm thankful Tagg has a winter Birthday so we only have to make this decision once.  He'll turn five and then he'll go to Kindergarten.  Easy enough. 

Our preschool offers two wonderful JK's; a traditional half-day program and one that extends to 2pm second semester.  I don't worry so much that Wells can't handle real Kindergarten because I know she can.  She's bright and thoughtful and thrives on schedules and responsibility.  It's the middle and high school years that I'm worried about.  Being barely 18 as she enters a world full of adults forever.  I just think it might be something wonderful to gift her one more year to be little.  But we'll see.  There are so many factors at play and thankfully there really isn't a wrong answer.  If she goes, she'll be amazing and if she waits she'll be amazing.  It's just a question of timing.


These adorable and comfy pajamas (kids/womens) are from Malabar Bay and because I know you love these as much as I do they've graciously offered everyone 25% off site-wide with the Promo Code: JuliaRyanCreates so you can pick out some cute PJ's or something else pretty as well!  In addition to their lounge wear I love their scarves and tunics as well.

They're really soft but sturdy and I love how well these held up in the wash, literally no shrinking which is important for someone on the taller side like me.  For size reference, Wells wears a size 5 or 6 and is in a size 6 here and I'm in an adult small.  There is some wiggle room on the bottom because of the tie waist in the womens pants but the top is a slender fit.  I'd say size up for girls for sure.  Also, they're not at all translucent even with the white background so I'd feel comfortable rocking these in my kitchen with colored panties and no bra.  That's pretty important.

Thank you to Malabar Bay for allowing my sweet girl to pick out a pair of "grown up girl" pajamas and for gifting us a second matching set for her mama. 

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34 comments:

  1. Y'all are seriously the cutest ever!!!

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    1. Thanks girl! You and Tay need a matching set :)

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  2. Those pjs are adorable and junior K what a hard decision. I don't know what I would do. I am already getting nervous abut Sterling starting in the fall as much for him as me. How do we have almost 5 year old kids already??

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    1. I know it's crazy! We're they just tiny babies when they met?!!!!

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  3. Cute pajamas! My daughter used to call them "rich people" pajamas when she was little. I have NO idea where that came from!
    We were fortunate that both our kids have September birthdays and here in SC the age cutoff is August 30 for starting school. So they are both the oldest in their classes, which was great for our son. And I am loving the fact that when our daughter starts college she will turn 19 within the first month!

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    1. that's really funny! I'm thinking older is better too :)

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  4. Julia, would you recommend them for post partum in the hospital? Looking for something cute for visitors but also easy for nursing. Would LOVE if you did a maternity style post, as I know you had to have been a super stylish preggo!

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    1. Yes! I had two c-sections and would have loved these plus the robe in the hospital. I'm not sure if this is your first child or not but on day one (after a c-section anyway) I didn't want any pants but a nice top and robe was crucial and my bottom half was hidden under hospital blankets anyway. It was nice when visitors came and just for myself to feel "pretty" and normal again. The buttons make it easy for breast feeding and skin on skin too :)

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    2. We also have Night Shirts that many of our customers love to take to the hospital with our matching robes. http://www.malabarbay.com/women-s-apparel/sleep-shirts.html

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  5. As a kindergarten teacher I would say definitely go for junior kindergarten if it is an option! It never hurts to be the oldest in the class.

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    1. thanks for your comment! I hear that over and over again!

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  6. Is Jr. K an extra year of preschool? Our preschool offers a 4's/5's class and the teachers recommend when they think children need that extra year. I rely on what our 4's teachers have told us since they see so many kiddos that age and work closely with K teachers and their expectations. I would say if she's an eager learner, can sit, and can grip well, those are the top criteria no matter what their birthday is, early or late.

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  7. Adorable! I love their print options.

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  8. As a former school counselor and mother of a child psychologist, I would say that you will never regret giving them the gift of time. We chose to give our daughter the extra year of preschool and would do it again. Have a wonderful week!

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  9. Oh my goodness, that last picture is so darling!!!

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  10. Those pj's are precious! We have 3 with Summer birthdays and all three got an extra year. It was the best decision we ever made. Like you, no one ever said holding their kids back a year was a mistake but plenty of people said they wished they had done it. Plus, you get an extra year to save for college ;)

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  11. LOVE those PJs!! Pre-kids, I was a kindergarten teacher. Giving the kiddos an extra year, really is a gift. In any grade there will be an 18 month span of ages. My son will turn 5 in July, and even though I know the right answer, I too struggled with what should we do. Friends are moving into K, cousins, too.....but when it comes down to it, it's right for us to do Junior K. You hit the nail on the head with thinking more about Jr. High and High School, rather than elementary. Elementary teachers are amazing, and make everyone succeed. Good luck!

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  12. Such cute photos and pajamas! I may have to buy some that B will grow into eventually! Good luck on the decision about Junior Kindergarten--such a hard one. My sister is a late summer birthday and was fine with being the youngest, but my brother we kept back a year and it was better for him to be one of the oldest kids.

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  13. For what it's worth, if you delay her, you just get to delay college costs down the road and I'm all for having that extra time at home when they are small. It's priceless time and with all the parents I've talked to over the years, no one ever regrets having their child start Kindergarten later rather than earlier. My kids are 16 and 11 and I've talked to many parents, we all agree, waiting is the best decision ever. No regrets.

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  14. Both of my kids did JK and I am so glad we did it! They have August and May birthdays. Love that your preschool gives the 2nd semester until 2 pm option!

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  15. Chesley StettenFebruary 02, 2015

    It's such a major decision and one that I was faced with as well. My oldest is 5 (bday in November) and we live in NYC and the cutoff here is December 31, so a child must be 5 by December 31 to start K in September of that year. In our school and in her class, the vast majority of the kids were already 5 when they started K in September and were turning 6 during the first semester of school. Scholastically she was fine, no issues with school for her, but socially she was very introverted and silent at school. She also happened to be the smallest and shortest in her class, in addition to being the youngest. I started asking tons of parents for their opinions everywhere we went, just to gauge their responses to help me formulate mine. In my years of asking others I have not found ONE SINGLE PARENT who regrets waiting. In fact, everyone says it was the best thing they did. But my husband (who was always the youngest and graduated high school at 17) was concerned about school and he not being challenged, so we spoke to the principal. She said that on a national scale, children are age 5 when they start K and turn 6 during that school year. She was completely supportive of our decision. So, we kept our daughter in PreK another year (this year) and she will start K in the Fall. We haven't had any issues. I am consistently reminded as things come up at school why this was absolutely the best decision for us and I have never regretted it. She has grown into a more confident student. Good luck to you!

    Sincerely,
    Chesley (a fellow CofC grad, and mom of 2 living in NYC)

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  16. LOVE the PJ's and definitely JR. Kindergarten!

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  17. We didn't do what we call "Young 5's" in Michigan for our daughter with a November 19 birthday with the the cutoff to start kindergarten here then being December 1st-that has since been changed to Sept. 1st. My daughter is sixteen now. When it was time to begin Kindergarten, there was no doubt she was ready for school. Her teacher of 4 year-old preschool told us she was confident she would be fine. At our first Kindergarten parent-teacher conference we told her teacher we were nervous about starting her at age four. The teacher told us if she hadn't been ready, we would have been notified within the first week of school and strongly encouraged to put her in Young 5's at that point. That never happened. One thing we had never even considered was how many other students in our district with late birthdays would do Young 5's before starting Kindergarten. We learned too late that our daughter was the ONLY child in her grade at our school with a late birthday who DID NOT do Young 5's. What this means is that she was OVER a year younger than the other youngest children. Another thing we had never thought of having a daughter, is how MANY parents with boys who had summer birthdays opted for Young 5's even though the cutoff in Michigan at the time was December 1st. What this meant was that she was about a year younger than the other girls with late birthdays, but up to 16-17 months younger than many of the boys in her classes! Most parents with boys with late birthdays in our district were so afraid that their boys would be small for sports or the youngest that they prevented that by making them the oldest by absurd amounts. It's all too much how people with Kindergarten aged children are plotting for their children to be the oldest and biggest in high school. All this to say, if we had known any of this, we would have been the same as everybody else in our district with a child with a late birthday and went ahead and put her into Young 5's. I would check with other parents and even the schools in your area to see how parents in your district handle it. I am not happy with a now 16 year old that she is 16-17 months younger than many boys in her high school in the same grade. The age difference is too much. There was no such thing as the Young 5's program when I began school at age 4 in Michigan with an October 22nd birthday and I was totally fine being one of the youngest in my grade throughout school and starting university at age 17. But times are completely different now with parents all worried their kid will be youngest and starting their children as late as possible with Young 5's type programs. From a mom who wishes we had considered what everyone else in our district was doing instead of only what we should do for our daughter because it definitely has an impact as the children grow up. Patti H. Michigan

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  18. Do Wells PJs say "flame resistant" ? Are they 100% cotton - website doesn't list specifics, but their FAQ says organic cotton. They are DIVINE!

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  19. Ha ha that last part about colored undies and no bra is crucial!

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  20. My parents still regret not having my sister (who is now 26) do a pre-K program. Her bday is 9/30 and at the time the cutoff was 12/31 (it is now 9/1). It has turned out ok, but middle school, high school and even parts of college were rough, less on an academic level and more on an emotional one. She was definitely more immature than her peers. I also have twin cousins (boy and girl) with July birthdays and they are the youngest in their class by 2 months

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  21. Love the pjs, so cute!!

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  22. They are adorable and so are you two…love!!

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  23. We went through this with P. She has a May birthday. Preschool teachers told us she was more than ready to go to K. Academically she was fine but not socially or emotionally. Starting around the second month of school, the K teacher had concerns about her socially & emotionally adapting. Turns out she was not only the smallest kid but also the youngest as most parents had opted to start their kids a year later. Even in a half-day K class she struggled emotionally - which was surprising as she is very outgoing and confident. She was simply not ready. We were shell shocked for the news that she would likely have to be held back. The guidance counselor gave us the best reassurance, as she had worked with P throughout the year, that it was likely the best thing we could do for her. She said that as the smallest and youngest, it was not now that we needed to worry but rather in the tween years from a developmental perspective. She is now repeating K and doing fine but I regret not putting her in a 5-day preschool class (no young 5s or pre-K at the school). The counselor also said that NO ONE she knows who chose to wait a year has ever regretted the decision. I only wish we were given that counsel before! I regret pushing her forward tremendously. Costly mistake all the way round.

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  24. I Love the PJs. As far as school, I vote to do what is right for your child. I do see both sides of the arguments, and I'm a little bit jealous that I don't have the option with my children. They are late October birthdays and the cut off is 8/31. There is no academic or social reason to hold either of these 2 back, and if I did they would clearly be too old for their classes. (if I held back, they'd be turning 20 within months of starting college). However, I am now faced with them ending up being among the youngest as most parents of any child born after spring break here are holding their children back. Not as worried about my daughter as my son, because his peers will all be 8-10 months older than him and being held back for size/sports. Some are an entire year older than him. Like I said...I completely get it if it is right for the child. There really is no good answer but to do what you think is best. I try to support my friends to do what is best for the children, and not worry about how my children will be affected by others' decisions because I will make sure they are okay the best I can:)! Hang in there and good luck!!!

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  25. We faced the same decision with S who with a late September birthday was eligible to start Kindergarten this year (barely since the cutoff is 9/30). We talked to many, many people and decided to wait. Like you said, I wasn't worried about her academically, or even socially when it comes to elementary school. However, I did not want her to be the youngest in the class in middle/high school! Again, we talked to so many parents and no one ever regretted waiting but many parents did regret sending them at four! And then I thought, why would I rush this just to send her away to college at 17? Why not keep her home another year!

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  26. I have a late August birthday and am so thankful my parents opted for another year of preschool rather than sending me to kindergarten right after my fifth birthday. Especially as a girl, I'm sure Wells would thrive in kindergarten next year but in my opinion it's really 10+ years down the road where you see the payoff in waiting. Emotionally I feel a lot more mature than my peers and feel like I tend to handle bigger life decisions and transitions a lot better. Especially going to college at 19 I felt so much more prepared and mature than many of my peers who were just 17. At 21 I am still grateful for my parents' decision to do another year of preschool. Plus it's a fun advantage to get to turn 16 and 21 before most of your classmates!

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  27. Cute cute jammies! I think school districts HAVE to get a handle on everyone holding their children back. My daughters b-day is late March and she is one of the youngest in her grade... That's crazy! I have heard rumors that certain districts are going to start enforcing cut-offs unless there is a REAL reason to hold back- medical, educational, etc. Otherwise you have 8 year olds in a Kindergarten and 20 year olds graduating high school. If everyone stuck to the age guidelines there wouldn't be this issue. The sad thing is so many boys are held back to be "big" for sports.

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  28. I'm a kindergarten teacher in richmond and I would say if you're on the fence at all, go for the junior kindergarten. The cut off here is September 30 and it's very rare that the kids with September and August birthdays don't struggle more. A lot depends on how prepared they were and their experiences before, parents make a huge difference and from what I've read, Wells would be fine but nothing beats mom's intuition so go with your gut.

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