Life + Style

September 10, 2014

Twenty Things

I was tagged by my girl Shelley to play along in a little get to you know game called Twenty Things.  I feel like it's always hard for me to come up with new things to tell y'all about myself because through the years I've shared so much.  But it's always fun to stretch my brain and share some random facts.  I'm calling out Dominique of Comfy Cozy Couture to keep this little gem going.

1.  My husband and I met on a blind date.  The rest is history.

2.  I hate formal exercise.  I much prefer to go on walks or run around with my kids.  The gym freaks me out.  I feel like I'm just not coordinated enough for classes and I think I look like such a try-hard wandering around by myself staring at all the equipment.

3.  I need at least two more hours in my day.  I'm going to start carving them out of the morning because I'm just not a night person.  I go to bed immediately following my kids.  I've tried afternoon or evening caffeine drinking which leaves me more awake but also restless all night.  I need some time to be alone.  Do you know how much actual alone time I get each day?  None.  I think some quiet alone time would be good for me.

4.  I'm so much more comfortable in simple clothes.  I feel so silly and much older in really trendy outfits.  Read Real Housewives over the top.  I also don't want to get stuck in a fashion rut.

5.  I don't hate my skin and I love natural looks on other women but I still wear tinted moisturizer, highlighter, bronzer, blush, mascara, and pink lip gloss daily. I'm also a big fan of hairspray and dry shampoo.

6.  I go through phases with my purchases.  For a while it's all house stuff, then it's clothes.  I honestly don't feel like I over do it in either area but it's funny how it's all or nothing for me.

7.  I want another baby but I know I can't handle it.  Things feel so manageable right now during the day and I know adding another to the mix will alter that forever.  And we still haven't gotten the honeymoon period of nighttime sleep after having Tagg.  I don't do well when I feel like I'm sinking and I know a baby would make me feel that way.  Not another child, but another baby.  I want Wells to have a sister and Tagg to have a brother.  So really that's two more babies that I want.  Not in the cards for us.

8.  Along those lines, I don't like the baby stage.  I'm thankful every day for the way in which my two are growing up and communicating more.  Wells was a really hard and fussy baby, Tagg was not.  But either way, they may get harder in some respects as they get more independent but the crying and sleeplessness isn't for me.  Just tell me what you need!

9.  My hair is turning white.  Yup.  It's skipping over the grey stage and going straight for white.  Everywhere.  I can't even.  I'm using it as my excuse to go blonde.  I was blonde when Matthew and I met and got married and then up and went back to brunette one day one a whim.  I always said when I was pregnant with Wells that I would be what my kids are one day, so blonde it is for all of us now!

10.  My kids have too much screen time.  I'm not going to pretend it's only for a few minutes so I can cook dinner or just during breakfast.  We play outside a lot and we play with toys so much but I always feel guilty about the shows.  So much.  But somehow I still say yes any time they ask to use the iPad or watch tv because it's so easy.  I say yes too much. 

11. Up until about a year ago I really truly disliked Mexican food.  Now, it's my most favorite.

12.  I knew from the first month that Matthew and I dated that if we had a son his name would be Tagg.  Wells' name was originally Milly, which changed to Anne-Massey, and eventually Anne Caswell.  We didn't start calling her Wells until right before I was due. 

13.  I'm slow to make new friends.  I have a few good friends here in Richmond and a few really good friends spread out over the country.  With the exception to one, these are people I have known for years.  I envy women who go to a playground or preschool drop-off and leave with a new pal.  How do they do it?  How do they make those connections so effortlessly?  I envy that.

14.  Barbecue Chicken Pizza is my all time favorite.  I could eat it every day.

15.  I eat salad every day for lunch.  Like a giant mixing bowl family sized salad.  I think it's really easy to make good food choices most of the time when you don't limit yourself.  Every time you put something in your body it's a choice.  I would rather eat a giant salad the size of my head than a small sliver of something else.  But I also don't deprive myself.  So when I want something high in calories, I go for it.  Like a whole barbecue chicken pizza.

16.  The only liquids I drink are coffee, tea, wine (or beer), and water.  That's it.  I never ever drink juice (aside from the occasional mimosa) or soft drinks.  Period.  I used to love them.  I gave them up for a while after Tagg was born because I was having a bag sugar crash and I accidentally lost ten pounds.  I had more energy and I lost weight.  Never looking back.

17.  I know I'm that mom and I'm okay with it.  I'm going to cry when they go to kindergarten.  I'm going to loose my shit if either of them tries to apply to an out of state college.  I feel like Matthew and I have built the sweetest little family and I never want that to change.  I worry about them growing up and leaving.  I worry about the time when I won't get to know the most about them.

18.  I'm super sarcastic and find witty humor the best kind of humor.  Watching almost all comedies give me major eye roll because they're just so not funny to me.  I think real life humor is the best.  It's so rare to find that in shows or movies and I wish Hollywood would do a better job of portraying that.

19.  I watch The Real Housewives, Nashville, Parenthood, Scandal, and Love it or List it.  Throw in some Netflix and that's it.  I feel like in 20 years I'm going to really suck at Trivial Pursuit.

20.  I used to wear dressy clothes and high heels when I was a full-time nanny after college to prove that I would make a hot mom one day.  Now I wear yoga pants with uggs or skinny jeans and flats.


Okay now I don't expect you to come up with such a lengthy list with no warning but I would love for you to share one or two things about yourself in the comments section.  Just a bit about who you are or what makes you tick.

I'm also opening it up for you to ask me anything else you're curious about.  We haven't played this game since Tagg was a baby.  Go.

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  1. I totally can relate to being slow to make friends. I am baffled by people who move to a new town and have their new neighbors helping with their kids and a girls night within a week. I have come to notice that many bloggers are rather introverted.
    My little tidbit about myself is that Mexican food used to be my fave but now my husband and I can't get enough Indian food. I make several dishes at home but our local Indian restaurant is our favorite for eating out.

  2. We watch the exact same TV shows! I totally understand about being slow to make new friends. Love your blog and your honesty!

  3. I totally agree about the baby stage and your reasons for wanting another child, but not another baby. I feel the exact same way. How is your new job going? :)

  4. I love how utterly honest this list is! I don't have any kids (yet) but can completely relate to each and every thing on this list. my husband and I moved to Midlothian a year ago (winterfield area) from the Fan and it has definitely been a transition trying to meet new people in the suburbs when it used to be as simple as walking around the corner of our row home. if you ever need a new friend to vent to, absolutely let me know! I am always up for a glass of wine while gushing about the latest scandal episode :)

  5. Great list! I feel like you and I are very similar, I could have written several of these myself (TV Shows, exercise, food, friends). Something about me: I'm starting to treat our home as our forever home. After moving 3 times, we thought we might live here for 5-10 years and then buy our "dream home". But, I'm finding that the more we change and add to this home, the more we love it. I think we might just stay here for the long run! Love your blog, thanks for the inspiration each day!

  6. We are so similar! If we lived closer, we could skip the awkward getting-to-know-you phase and be instant friends. :) Love getting a glimpse into your world.

  7. It is SO hard to make friends as an adult. We recently moved to Northern Virginia and I don't really have friends here. Honestly, though I would rather have a small group of good friends (which I have further south) than a large group of acquaintances. Friendship takes energy to grow and I want the people that put that energy into to be worth it! Loved reading your list!

  8. Oh I guess I better get to work! Thanks for tagging me, loved reading your list! :)

  9. These are so good Julia! 7) Mikes wants another baby so bad and I'm really struggling watching Sam become more of a big boy and less of a baby every day. But the thought of going through the baby phase ans sleepless nights is more than I can handle. No more babies for us :( 10) Guilty. Wayyy guilty and I always feel like I'm messing up when I turn it on but I still do it. 13) How the hell do they do it? How do they have so much time to keep up with all those friends? And, is it bad that I don't really want to???

  10. I love this post! Thanks for sharing more about yourself! I love your skin too ;) - it's always glowing! Mine is covered in freckles and wrinkles (I blame the kids)!

  11. Love your honesty! I feel like my daughter has too much screen time too. It is just too easy when you need a little break. And I totally hear you on the alone time! Sometimes I go to bed early just so I can have a half an hour reading in bed in silence!

  12. Love this post! I feel completely guilty about all of my girls' screen time, and I'm not a huge fan of the baby stage either. Your blog is one of my favorites, and thanks for sharing so much of yourself!

  13. LOVE this post! Like someone else said...I think we'd be insta-friends in the carpool line. Kidding. However, you hit the nail on the head with how I feel about baby #3. I have in the past week told my husband that I've resigned to the fact that I will have no more children. I'd still love another, but I know it would not be perfect in real life like it is in my head. Now, if I win the lottery tomorrow and can pay tuition for school and college and travel with the children without thinking, I might just give #3 a Go! I have severe mom guilt about going to work every. single. day and still have clients calling me after hours and on the weekends. I feel sorry for them that they will never know a summer vacation from school, at home, with mom, and running around with the neighborhood kids. I convince myself that it's okay because I make a great effort to be the best mom to them when I am with them. Love the post and your blog!

  14. I loved reading this! We have so many that I was thinking "me too!" but especially 6 & 13. I have been in more of a clothes phase lately but can tell the home phase is about to kick in with the change of seasons. And making really good girlfriends after moving to a new place has literally got to be the hardest thing ever!

  15. This is awesome. Learned so much about you. I thought would be the hot mom too but I am always in sneakers/flats and jeans with my hair up! I love pizza and no matter how healthy I try to eat , I need pizza once a week, at least!

  16. Loved this post and all your answers! I am a lot like have too much screen time, hair has gone straight to white and I do color it, hate formal exercise and am cautious making new friends. I too am guilty of wanting another baby which is so out of the question...I have a 23, 21, 17 and a 5 yr old. I had my first daughter very young at 23 and my last little one at 42. Something about me is I would rather spend money on painting supplies or something for my house than on me. I love to buy my children clothing or something for their homes than to buy myself clothing. I stick with a classic design that doesn't go out of style. I am comfortable in jeans, a long skirt with a t-shirt or in the winter leggings and a big sweater and boots. I am all about being casual but polished. I am never comfortable in a home that feels like a museum or hotel. My home is casual, cozy and comfortable.
    Thanks for sharing and your blog is a favorite of mine.

  17. I love hearing these things about you and appreciate your honesty!

  18. I forgot to say I hate the gym too. I never go. Like you said, I go for walks around the neighborhood, do a recorded workout show in the comfort of my own home, etc.


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